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4 Things Men Do That Scare Women Away

4. June 2010 by Christy 0 Comments

When it comes to online dating, a few small mistakes can be all it takes to scare a potential match away. If you want to have the best chance of finding The One online, avoid these common errors.


Trying to Control Her

Unfortunately, some online suitors believe that chatting with a woman one or more times means they have some sort of claim on the lady. These men may try to control “their” women by telling the ladies when to get online, what pictures to send, what questions to answer, and insisting that they stop chatting with other men. If you’re guilty of these controlling behaviors, stop! Respectful requests are fine, but a quality woman is never going to want to take your relationship to the next level if make unrealistic demands before the two of you even meet.


Bad-Mouthing Others

Constantly trashing other people, be it your ex, your friends, the other women on RussianLoveMatch, etc., will make a lady question your loyalty. Not only that, but she will begin to wonder what you say behind her back and if she can truly trust you. No one wants a partner they can’t trust, so resist the urge to bad-mouth others and you will improve your chances of finding a Russian match.


Constantly Having Sex on the Brain

Save the sexual discussions for ladies you know well. Don’t request nude photos, don’t send nude photos, don’t detail your sexual fantasies, or tell her about your wild sex life unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these comments and requests. A big turn off for women is men who are preoccupied with sex. Why? Because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships can’t be based on sex alone. 



Everyone is entitled to a bad day or two, but women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves. Therefore it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job, your health, the economy, the cost of Russian dating, etc. That’s not to say that you should NEVER mention these things, but rather you should avoid negative subjects in the first few emails and chat sessions and keep gloomy topics to a minimum.


No lady likes a man who is too controlling, negative, or preoccupied with sex, or those who constantly talk behind their others' backs.  Though many gentlemen would like to believe otherwise, Russian ladies have many options and do not wish to waste their time on men who give out these warning signs.