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Thinking of Spending the Night With a Lady?

29. June 2011 by Christy 0 Comments

Thinking of spending the night with a special lady? Not so fast. Despite what some members might think, many ladies are not comfortable inviting Western suitors into their homes.


As we’ve mentioned before, intimacy is not guaranteed during a first visit (or even a second or third), and men who expect to spend the night at a lady’s home may be disappointed. Some ladies prefer to get to know a gentleman in person before inviting him over, while others prefer to wait until marriage. Does this mean the ladies aren’t “serious” about finding love? Of course not. It simply means they have strong morals and values and refuse to be pressured into doing something they don’t want to do. Who can fault them for that?


Personal preferences aside, many ladies are not comfortable with the idea of inviting a man to spend the night at their home because of the way others might view them. As in other countries, there is somewhat of a double standard in Russia and the Ukraine when it comes to sex and unmarried women. Though it isn’t fair, friends, family, and neighbors may look down upon a lady for inviting a man to her home, especially if the lady lives alone or has children. Societal expectations greatly influence the way women (and men) behave and are not something that can easily be cast aside.


If a lady is hesitant about allowing you to spend the night, don't give her a hard time. There are many reasons a woman may wish to wait be it morals, societal pressures, or a little of both. Be respectful and patient and your lady will love your for it.