Every dating experience will have certain things in common. But, international dating is different from local dating in several key ways. Long-distance dating requires an approach that is different from what works when you and your lady are in the same town. And, dating across language and cultural barriers makes for a few potential pitfalls all their own.
During the dating process, being aware of potential pitfalls and ready to make the commitments and actions necessary can help ensure romantic success. A few of our favorite tips:
Start with Great Profile Text
Avoid clichés that don’t say anything about you. Who doesn’t enjoy laughter and travel? Instead, write about things that make you unique. Do you have a favorite hobby? Is there a particular nugget of personal history that you feel reveals a lot about who you are and what you want from life? Share those in your profile.
Be aware of profile don’ts, as well. Avoid negative statements. For instance, some gentlemen who have been unlucky in love might be tempted to mention this. Whether it is true or not, avoid saying so right in your profile. It can make you sound pessimistic. Also, do not give directives or ultimatums. For instance, someone who is most interested in serious relationships could be tempted to write “Don’t contact me unless you are for real.” However, there is no way to know what you might want out of a relationship with someone until you have gotten to know each other. Also, ladies might find that these sorts of demands confrontational and ultimately off-putting.
Every so often, update your profile. Brush up the wording to keep it fresh. After spending a couple of months of dating online, you have a much clearer idea of what you want to say about yourself to someone so she can determine if you are someone she would like to get to know.
Make Your Profile Pictures Tell a Story About You
Living in your country is different from living in Ukraine. The ladies are curious about you and what your day to day life is like. Be sure to take photos of yourself out and about enjoying your day. Show pictures in your home, the outdoor spaces you enjoy, landmarks in your town. Also show how you spend your free time. For instance, if you are a fan of hockey, have someone take a picture of you out at a game.
Have some pictures taken – or, do it yourself with a timer and tripod – of you dressed in your best suit. One of these shots would be a great pick for your main profile picture. Ukrainian ladies dress to impress, and they appreciate a gentleman who puts an effort into his appearance, as well.
Put up new photos every now and then, especially your main profile photo. If you make any significant changes in your appearance, such as getting a new hair cut or losing some weight, make sure you get some pictures to show that off.
When you date locally, you, as the gentleman, are expected to make the first move. In Russian and Ukrainian online dating, the dynamic is the opposite. Instead of requiring the gentleman to establish contact and interest, Ukrainian and Russian women are often the ones to initiate contact online.
When dozens of beautiful women send them introduction emails, many gentlemen wonder if this is too good to be true. But, what they don’t realize is, to Ukrainian ladies, gentlemen from overseas are the exotic ones. The ladies are curious, and want to know more about you and your country. Many ladies will send introductory emails to a wide range of gentlemen. Online dating can be a numbers game; ladies are advised to start with a wide field so that they don’t waste time waiting for replies that may never come. Remember, they are looking to find their perfect partner, just like you are.
When you find an interesting lady’s profile before she finds yours, send a quick intro to get the conversation going. Many gentlemen write a general introduction that they save and resend to save time. Tell a bit about yourself. It’s best to end with a question that will facilitate a conversation between you and the lady you wish to get to know.
Keeping Up Your Correspondence
The people who have the best success in the dating world are those who are genuinely interested in other people. Make sure that your conversations are not one-sided. On the one hand, a lady may lose interest in a gentleman who only talks about himself. But, in his eagerness to get to know her, a gentleman must also avoid peppering a lady with questions. As much as possible, let conversation flow naturally.
Follow your lady’s lead when choosing a form of communication. Some ladies like to communicate by email, others prefer chat. For instance, if you and the special lady keep different schedules, she simply may be unavailable to chat at the times that you are online, making email a better choice.
Make sure that you use proper spelling and grammar and stay away from slang, sentence fragments and text speak. Otherwise, even ladies who speak English well may have a hard time understanding you. We have found that many misunderstandings and conflicts that have arisen between two people during the courtship process are the result of a simple error of translation. By making your emails as easy to understand as possible, you can avoid these sorts of misunderstandings.
Getting Past Long-Distance Dating Obstacles
When there are distance, cultural and language barriers, a relationship takes more work. But, by being patient, being as clear as possible in your communication and putting in the effort to nurture the relationship, you can make your long distance relationship a success.
Do not get upset and act irrationally if you see something in a message from her that you do not like. Chances are good that it is simply a misunderstanding. These can be common when dealing with a romance that crosses language and cultural barriers. Always ask for clarification before assuming that something is wrong. Flying off the handle only makes a minor issue turn into a major fight.
Make an effort to keep romance alive even though you are far apart. Ways to do this include frequent emails, long distance dates and little gifts to commemorate occasions or just because.
Taking Things to the Next Level
If things are going well, eventually the two of you may wish to move things to the next level and exchange contact information. The exchanging of personal information means a whole new chance at unfettered communication; you can enjoy unfiltered chat on HotRussianBrides, or exchange email addresses, phone numbers and social media profiles. Make sure that you and your lady are on the same page before initiating an Intimacy Request. You two should feel the same way about the seriousness of the relationship, and where and how you wish to communicate after your Intimacy Request is approved.
The First Time You Meet
After spending time getting to know one another online, the next step in taking the relationship further is to meet. Because of visa and safety issues, this will almost always occur in her home country. Making the trip to a foreign country to meet a lady who may be your future bride is exciting, but it can be a little intimidating, too.
Study up on Ukrainian etiquette and learn a bit of the language before you go. On your date, you will almost certainly be accompanied by a translator or a member of your lady’s family. Just relax, chat and get to know one another, and accept that courtship in Ukraine is different from courtship in other places. By going into the experience with the right expectations, you are more likely to keep a positive attitude and have a good time on your dates.
Consider making dates with a few ladies before heading to Ukraine. Many gentlemen who have made the trip say that they wound up being unable to meet the lady they had in mind, or that they found they had better chemistry with someone else. If you make several dates, if something comes up, or if your connection just doesn’t feel as electric in person as it did online, you will not have wasted a trip.
Helping Your Bride Adjust to Her New Home
The work involved in your relationship doesn’t stop the day you say “I do.” It can be difficult to leave everything you know behind and go to a brand new place. Do what you can to help your lady settle in in her new home. Help her out with transportation, English lessons, and meeting other Ukrainian expats.
Each stage of your relationship, from the first look at a profile to the day you wed, to your twentieth anniversary and beyond, relationships take care. By always doing what you can to make each other happy and comfortable, you can build a strong, durable and satisfying love.
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