When a gentleman is disappointed in romance, it can be extremely disheartening and frustrating. And, it is reasonable for a gentleman to wish to protect himself from disappointment in the future. But, if you are thinking of questioning a Russian lady’s intentions, your attempts to protect yourself from romantic misfortune could backfire.
Some gentlemen, when they have had an international relationship that did not work out, will quiz the next Ukrainian girl they talk to. For instance, they will say, even in the first email exchange, “the last lady I talked to did not want to answer my questions. You’re not like that, are you?”
While this may seem like a reasonable question, it actually comes across quite rude. From the first exchange, the Ukrainian lady is put on the offensive. Asking whether she is evasive can make her feel that you mistrust her and she would have to somehow “prove” herself to you. This is not something that a lady will find attractive or enticing.
Think about it this way: how would you react if a lady on a dating site sent you a message that said, “My last boyfriend was a bore who just talked about himself. Are you? I don’t want to waste my time.” You would feel as if she was making assumptions before ever talking to you. Additionally, it would reflect poorly on her character, making her sound like someone who was suspicious and distrustful.
Treat Ukrainian and Russian ladies with the same courtesy that you would expect from someone during courtship, and don’t worry about the negatives. In the end, it is important to remember that online dating is a numbers game. You may have to talk to many beautiful Ukrainian ladies before you find someone who is the one for you. But, make sure you don’t disqualify yourself right at the beginning by asking questions or making demands that offend the lady you are trying to win.