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Don't Try to Change Her

14. July 2010 by Christy 0 Comments

Everyone wants a partner who will accept them as they are, someone who won't try to change their lover's personality or behavior. However, this rarely stops men and women from attempting to change their own partners. Below are three things people do in an attempt to change their significant others and why you shouldn't do the same.



In an attempt to inspire change, many men and women criticize their partner when they encounter qualities or behavior they do not like. They usually think they’re only offering helpful suggestions or advice, but more often than not their partners feel judged or attacked. If you’ve been lucky enough to find a Russian sweetheart, love your lady for who she is and don’t focus on her flaws. After all, nobody’s perfect. We don’t mean to suggest that you should never offer feedback or advice, but it’s important to pick your battles and only remark on the things that are truly important to you. Criticizing every little aspect of a lady’s character will only anger your significant other or make her feel badly about herself and that’s no way to build a healthy relationship.



At times, singles will attempt to inspire change in their partner by comparing them to others. It’s a technique that rarely works. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses and comparing a shy lady to someone who is outgoing or a plump lady to one who is thin is not only pointless but is bound to cause hurt feelings and resentment. For the best relationship results, appreciate the positive qualities in your lady and resist the urge to compare her to another person.



Rather than fully trusting their partners and letting them be themselves, some men and women attempt to control them. This is particularly true in international relationships when a man and woman are thousands of miles apart. Such behavior is toxic to a relationship as it causes resentment, anger, or despair in the partner being pressured to change or act and think in a certain way. If you wish to establish a solid relationship with a Russian lady, don’t try to control her. Give her the freedom to be herself, express her opinions, and do what she wants to do. Your relationship will be much more successful. 


Everyone deserves a partner who will accept them as they are. Men who accept this basic truth and realize that no one is perfect will be more successful with the ladies than those who expect their partners to change.